On to Being Old

After the brief moments of remembering my past military experience, yesterday was also time to snap back to the present. After I went to a virtual transgender – cross dressers meeting last night, it seemed I spent the whole day on the laptop. Of course it included the time it took me to go through all my emails and the time it took to write a blog post. 

Mixed in with all of that was a LGBTQ virtual webinar on aging issues I watched late last week. I came away from it with at least the sense others shared my concerns with conditions we face as we age. Specifically in assisted care facilities and/or nursing homes. Messages came in from political figures such as Sherrod Brown (Ohio Democratic Senator) and the Mayor of Dayton, Ohio. I also learned more about a group called “Sage” which presents seminars to assisted living groups. 

I am also going to attend another seminar summit meeting today on nearly the same subjects. It’s called a “Workshop for LGBT Elders and their Caregivers.” Hopefully I will learn about any rights the elderly have may have. 

As I say over and over again, I am so paranoiac about having to de-transition and go back in the closet as I face getting older. I am in a different place than many transgender individuals because I have chosen not to have any surgeries at all, plus no facial hair removal. Take me off my hormones (which is also a possibility) and I am stuck dealing again with the worst aspects of my gender dysphoria.

I am fortunate though I have a strong support group around me. 

Through it all, I keep telling myself not to build a bridge to jump off of before I need to. 


  1. I am interested in hearing more about this problem. Along with compromised health care does discrimination in assisted living come with other problems, like being denied hormone treatments? Where can transgender seniors go where they will be treated fairly, if they can afford to move? Are the number of LGTBQ seniors in assisted living higher (percentage wise) that the number of heterosexual seniors? Is the solution for the LGBTQ community to open friendly assisted living communities?

    Be strong, too. Keep looking for solutions. I hope this next challenge turns out well for you.

    1. cyrsti says:

      I can only point to Ohio where I live. At this point in time, there are no laws in place to protect us. Especially in assisted living situations. On the bright side there are organizations popping up which help to provide information on LGBTQ aging situations. Even still now we are completely at the mercy of the community and it is up to us to try to locate one who accepts us.

      Thanks for your encouragement! It is appreciated.

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