It seems to me the term “gender fluid” has just become popularized by the younger generation of queer women and men everywhere. My idea was reinforced recently when I attended a transgender – crossdresser meeting. Several of the participants were 20 to early 30 somethings Along the way, they mentioned the idea of being gender fluid. Or how they wished somedays they could work as a guy and the next as a girl.
At the time, I wondered if being gender would have worked for me, or was I at all?
Then I realized I tried being gender fluid and it led me to a suicide attempt. I was trying to live part time in my old male life while at the same time attempting to learn to live as a transgender woman.
Hormone replacement therapy came along and forced my hand. If I was going to choose a gender, it would have to be the higher maintenance feminine one. When I started HRT, it seemed all too quickly I was growing breasts, my skin was softening and my hair was becoming long enough to tie it back into a pony tail.
At the time, I wasn’t planning on the process happening so fast. So, very quickly any thoughts of being gender fluid left my mind. Even though the term itself was probably a decade away from being used at all.
As I proceeded on my journey, it was increasingly evident I was home. I had discovered what deep down I always knew…I was born to be a girl/woman.
In conclusion, I wish anyone trying to pursue a gender fluid life the best of luck. It nearly killed me.